me_irl

[u/Party_Favor_]

[u/RockStarMarchall]

This is why l don't use vc, lm not even a girl, l just think people are toxic asf

[u/Bounding_Gem932 → u/RockStarMarchall]

Same, also I’m socially awkward

[u/RockStarMarchall → u/Bounding_Gem932]

Haha me too

[u/Aarongrasso → u/RockStarMarchall]

“Maybe we should like play online or something?”

[u/permasneer → u/Aarongrasso]

... nah

[u/Sure-Its-Isura → u/permasneer]

Ooo my sides, it really chain this way don't it? Lol

[u/ArchyRs → u/Sure-Its-Isura]

Circle the good currencies for this man who has never played futsol in his life

[u/boomstik4 → u/RockStarMarchall]

Me three!

[u/Money-Worldliness919 → u/Bounding_Gem932]

Maybe you're not that akward, and people just suck. I know i feel that way.

[u/kotsumu → u/RockStarMarchall]

The older I get, the more I realize that the sample set of people you meet online are the worst of humanity.

[u/ThatOneGuy_2020-1 → u/kotsumu]

I used to agree, and then I met more people in the real world. It's the same people, they're just easier to ignore in real life.

[u/coolvin89 → u/kotsumu]

Not really the worse, but they say what they want because well... its through a screen.. no ones gonna stop em. But i've seen worse people on social media in my experience. I should prob check out more toxic games like rust to see a difference.

[u/Waruteru → u/RockStarMarchall]

I never understood why people get so upset over a game. Like, holy shit, chill! It's just a game.

I still remember people screaming at me for using an underbarrel grenade launchers in MW2 all those years ago. Even got kicked a few times

[u/valgrind_error → u/Waruteru]

I’m not a psychologist but I wonder if it’s a similar mechanism to road rage. Some people just turn into absolute psychotic animals behind the wheels of cars. Similar thing seems to happen in online gaming.

[u/GillyMonster18 → u/valgrind_error]

I’d say it’s more they think online anonymity gives them the ability to act like a turd without consequences. 99% of the people who behave like this wouldn’t act this way in public because they know it’s unacceptable.

[u/FlawsAndConcerns → u/GillyMonster18]

I’d say it’s more they think online anonymity gives them the ability to act like a turd without consequences.

I mean, for the most part, it DOES.

The difference comes between what you choose to do with that 'power'. Non-jerks have no issue under these circumstances, because...well, they're not jerks.

[u/P_A_I_M_O_N → u/valgrind_error]

Barrier aggression, it’s a fear response. Like dogs that bark through the fence but are suddenly well behaved when the gate is open. The inability to fight that the barrier represents allows the person to display all the insecurity rage that is prohibited in actual interaction.

[u/Amythyst369 → u/P_A_I_M_O_N]

Never heard barrier aggression used in a human context before but it makes sense.

[u/Dismal-Past7785 → u/Waruteru]

People with low self esteem attach too much value to their performance in video games that use match making algorithms that hold them to around a 50% win rate.

[u/blackrainbow316 → u/Dismal-Past7785]

I used to think it was that. But I've realized I don't care what my kdr is compared to anyone else. I just care if my own performance is getting better or not.

Now I get angry at cheaters and other bullshit. Otherwise I just play on.

[u/Flushles → u/Dismal-Past7785]

I think it's more that people's self esteem is attached to the hierarchies they (potentially) thrive in, not that they have low self esteem so they latch on to video games I'm sure there's increasingly niche groups that have specific "rockstars" no one knows about.

Edit I moved a comma

[u/Dodo_Hund → u/RockStarMarchall]

I can tell you from experience. Being a girl is not comparable to just normal toxic people. Playing valorant for example. As a guy I get a toxic lobby maybe 1/15 times. When I play with a girl, that number jumps up to about 5/10 times.

Also, when playing solo the toxicity is not directed towards me most of the time. When a girl is present it's always her that gets insulted

[u/CrownedPeach → u/Dodo_Hund]

You are 100% correct and they even did a few small studies and recordes it. I hope they do larger studies and prove it more conclusively. Sauce

Thank you so much for sticking up for girls who want to game.

[u/vapenutz → u/Dodo_Hund]

Hey, don't worry. I'll say that online gaming went absolutely downhill over last 10-15 years. Matchmaking ruined the whole fun for me, I just sticked around on the same servers where you actually made friends and people started to recognize you. With CS:S I just played surf and jailbreak where shit was actually fun, there were some insane maps - some of them actually made by friends that I've played with.

You're not missing out on much. It's really fucking boring and a lot of people who get high off their own farts don't play to have fun, they actually play so they can feel better about themselves.

[u/A_Simple_Magikarp → u/vapenutz]

I felt the same way about TF2, once the matchmaking thing came along, I stuck to custom servers exclusively. class wars, stop that tank, x100... those were the days!

[u/Real_MidGetz → u/RockStarMarchall]

It’d be nice if games came with some kind of speech-to-text where you could talk but instead of it going into vc, it goes into text chat

[u/RockStarMarchall → u/Real_MidGetz]

Well, that exists, l think, but l think people can still write mean stuff on the chat

Unless u mean like, pre wrote messages only, no custom

[u/ofBlufftonTown → u/RockStarMarchall]

So, like Splatoon. “Boo-yah!”

[u/potatononny → u/RockStarMarchall]

single player games for the win

[u/jimjim54 → u/RockStarMarchall]

i just don’t think being yelled at by a bunch of 14 year old proto-incels sounds like a good time

[u/Paramisamigos → u/RockStarMarchall]

I'm a girl gamer and I'm really good at gta v, 2k, and madden. 2k is where the meanest people are imo. Madden isn't bad at all. Gta online is a mix of people calling me a prepubescent squealer or they find out I'm actually a girl and then they call me a cheater because I'm high ranking. I always tell people to look at my kdr, it's barely above 1.

[u/BareFox → u/Paramisamigos]

People who don't play sports games really don't realize just how toxic people are on 2k. Like people will go out of their way to send you insanely toxic messages WHEN THEY WIN. Not to mention rec and other shit in MyCareer, it's a mess and the game doesn't even have a report button (at least from what I remember, I finally stopped playing last year).

[u/Paramisamigos → u/BareFox]

I haven't played since pre covid. I had a good group to play with too. We all played our parts too so we dominated the court at the park. Pippen has always been a favorite of mine so I'm the dedicated two man.

One thing that was explained to me was a lot of the guys that would try to come in and tell me to back off the court so they could join or just be downright degrading were dudes from bad neighborhoods who couldn't really go play at their local courts so they'd play the closest thing. Most of them weren't really familiar with a girl being in control of her own life and not needing a man to tell her what to do so they didn't care for me because I didn't respect them aka follow their demands.

[u/BareFox → u/Paramisamigos]

That is insane, but I don't doubt that it's true. It's really sad to see what 2k has turned into these days, from the toxic community and the absolute casino that is MyTeam (which was my own main mode). Really wish someone else would try to make another basketball game aside from 2k.

[u/Dry_Watch8035 → u/BareFox]

The only sport game I played were UFC 4. I was surprised to find a ridiculous amount of toxicity there, stark contrast to how respectful MMA fighters usually are to each other

[u/Fryceratops → u/Dry_Watch8035]

Competitive fighting game players are some of the worst.

[u/Tokimori → u/Paramisamigos]

Gta online is a mix of people calling me a prepubescent squealer or they find out I'm actually a girl and then they call me a cheater because I'm high ranking.

I mean you know they're stupid then because rank has nothing to do with skill in GTA:O. It's basically just a measurement of playtime.

[u/BlackKanjiG3 → u/RockStarMarchall]

I just VC with my close friends, that's it

[u/SquirrelSnuSnu → u/RockStarMarchall]

On top of that they always have shitty microphones. And i. EU where i live only a few people can speak english. So its quite dreadful.

[u/Questwarrior → u/RockStarMarchall]

Which is so fucking annoying, like the voice channel feature if used well can do so much and be so fun... Cant have good things tho

[u/Vmanaa → u/RockStarMarchall]

Same, not even a girl. Fuck talking to randoms. The most youre getting out of me is basic comms.

[u/EveryNickNameTaken → u/RockStarMarchall]

My name is "girly" or something in online games and boooy the amount of misogyny I've seen.

[u/ginger_as_fuck → u/EveryNickNameTaken]

I had a guy barely beat me in chess and he sent me a message afterwards offering to help teach me if I was single lmao. We had almost the same rating

[u/SenseI3ss → u/RockStarMarchall]

Yup. And disable chat if possible. The amount of toxicity in most gaming communities is beyond comprehension.

[u/idk_a_username135]

Can I introduce you to r/DeepRockGalactic

[u/mongolian-horde → u/idk_a_username135]

FOR ROCK AND STONE!!!

[u/WanderingDwarfMiner → u/mongolian-horde]

Rock and Stone everyone!

[u/tylewelt12 → u/WanderingDwarfMiner]

Rock and stone to the bone!

[u/OhNoMellon → u/tylewelt12]

Fur Karl!!

[u/Mk-None → u/OhNoMellon]

ROCK. AND. STOOOOOOONE!

[u/groover446 → u/Mk-None]

Did I hear a Rock and Stone!?

[u/Eldritch_Goose_2526 → u/groover446]

ROCK AND STONE!
(yea, you did)

[u/AngryGamer432 → u/Eldritch_Goose_2526]

If You Don't Rock and Stone, You Ain't Comin' Home

[u/PunkGeek87 → u/WanderingDwarfMiner]

Good bot.

[u/HMPoweredMan → u/idk_a_username135]

Legally speaking, rocking is more legal than stoning.

[u/welltimedstrike → u/idk_a_username135]

Learned about this game last week and will be buying it once I have the money. It looks fun.

[u/Interplanetary-Goat → u/welltimedstrike]

$10 on Steam, if you get it in the next four days! Definitely one of my top 3 favorite games.

[u/whendrstat → u/idk_a_username135]

It’s wild how much this game has blown up in the last couple years, I love it.

[u/Pkorniboi → u/idk_a_username135]

Funniest multiplayer Game like ever

[u/Sure-Ad9139 → u/idk_a_username135]

M U S H R O O M

[u/ricodo12 → u/idk_a_username135]

I don't have friends and that game doesn't sound very fun if you're not in a group

[u/Red-Baron05 → u/ricodo12]

The real reason why people play single-player games…

[u/Lonilson]

R6 be like:

[u/gat12393 → u/Lonilson]

Fuck, the accuracy is spot on. Why is it that some of the most famous multiplayer titles have the shittiest sweats playing. It's not even limited to ranked either, fuckers will act like they have a gun to their head in quick play.

[u/Alfredison → u/gat12393]

More popularity -> more people -> more toxic people

[u/FYHM_CATTY → u/Alfredison]

Yeah... Black Ops 2 and Modern Warfare 3 still got that title.

[u/achilleasa → u/Lonilson]

There's literally a R6 youtuber lady who made it big by making videos of her vc interactions lmao

[u/bear-barian → u/achilleasa]

Which one?

[u/AbelSlayer → u/bear-barian]

Spawntaneous, her "OMG a girl" series is just insane.

[u/Lenemus → u/Lonilson]

R6 Siege is super toxic regardless of gender. Those ultra aggressive mf’ers will absolutely go out of their way to spew their negativity to anyone and everyone. I used to play a lot of R6 Vegas back in the day and the vast majority of players back then were friendly. Sad and disgusted with the current state.

[u/Vmanaa → u/Lenemus]

R6 just sucks. Havent seen any other game with more toxic, throwers, griefers/TK community.

[u/squidbelik → u/Vmanaa]

This is the exact reason why Ubi is making so many changes to tackle griefing and trolls, and so many of those players just cry about the changes. The toxicity makes it so difficult for new players to enjoy the game.

[u/ShadowZpeak → u/squidbelik]

For old players too. R6 pretty much had the best voice quality, even better than discord. This led to a lot of people with good microphones (which you could tell apart instamtly) talking and others joining in. It was a blast coming home, hopping onto ranked and just having fun with everyone else, finding out about their day or hearing a funny story

[u/squidbelik → u/ShadowZpeak]

Exactly. I remember when I used to solo queue ranked, which I did from bronze to plat 2, and my games weren’t toxic at all. I found that communicating early and asking how people’s games were going, making small talk, etc. made the vibe of the games positive even though they went poorly. But then when my friend who was new to the game started playing, he immediately made my games way more toxic and people reciprocated that. It’s so easy to be toxic, but if you put effort, it also doesn’t have to be, which to be fair isn’t easy for lots of people. It’s just unfortunate it has to be that way. But I just hope that the new changes make it easier for everyone to enjoy the game that way.

[u/Vmanaa → u/Lonilson]

Out of all the shooters ive played r6 has the worst community.

[u/ManwithVeins → u/Lonilson]

Lol fr, the non stop tking is horrible. Vote kick was fucking hell, so glad they removed it

[u/babyteddie → u/Lonilson]

I find R6 is more racist than misogynistic in my experience

[u/hnnnghf → u/babyteddie]

I’ve been threatened to be r*ped in siege, there’s definitely racism but there is so much misogyny that I think you’re wrong saying it’s “more racist” than misogynistic. It’s very much of both to the point it’s really not comparable

[u/one-joule → u/hnnnghf]

It's not a matter of whether there's more of one than the other, it's about whether there's enough of each one to make the experience unenjoyable. And clearly there's far too much of both.

[u/DerWaechter_ → u/one-joule]

It's also a matter of perspective. Regardless of which one is more prevalent, a woman is automatically going to be exposed to more misogyny than racism, wheras a guy is going to be more exposed to racism by virtue of not being the target of misogyny.

Doesn't make either of the two okay though

[u/Goobaka]

“Just use your hole”. holey shit

[u/DarkHumourFoundHere → u/Goobaka]

That was a real bouncer for me

[u/Shitty_Person4 → u/DarkHumourFoundHere]

Username checks out.

[u/RuFRoCKeRReDDiT → u/Goobaka]

What's the context for gaming ?

[u/wobbysobby → u/RuFRoCKeRReDDiT]

Inventory management

[u/fragenbold → u/wobbysobby]

It's inappropriate af but my inner six year couldn't help giggling.

[u/_I_must_be_new_here_ → u/RuFRoCKeRReDDiT]

Try finger but whole.

[u/Klutzy_Tackle]

Advice from personal experience: only play with friends or without vc, makes things a lot more fun

[u/imeanuknowwhatimean → u/Klutzy_Tackle]

I used to play under a different name and not talked... even had a guy real name for leagues where only my team knew who I was. but this was also 15 or so years ago

[u/Vmanaa → u/Klutzy_Tackle]

I follow this and im a guy. Online games are more accommodating to guys but theyre still toxic af. Dont know how people handle playing solos.

[u/SovietSlut621 → u/Klutzy_Tackle]

Imagine having friends who wanna play anything with you

[u/itrashcannot → u/SovietSlut621]

Imagine having friends

[u/9manacombo]

as a human i would not recommend playing competitive multiplayer games.

[u/garlic_bread_thief → u/9manacombo]

As an AI language model, I do not have the conscientious to play a competitive multiplayer game.

[u/Popplys → u/garlic_bread_thief]

As a garlic bread, my life is in danger.

[u/boodlewoodle → u/Popplys]

Why did this make me laugh so much lmfao

[u/everfurry → u/9manacombo]

Being more sheltered is good for some people’s mental health tbh

[u/G4laxy69]

Try playing deep rock. I swear that community is usually pretty nice to greenbeards (new people)

[u/TheMostMonocle → u/G4laxy69]

ROCK AND STONE!!!

[u/WanderingDwarfMiner → u/TheMostMonocle]

To Rock and Stone!

[u/Grumpy_HoneyBear → u/WanderingDwarfMiner]

Did I hear a RROOCK AND STONE!?!

[u/G4laxy69 → u/Grumpy_HoneyBear]

ROCK AND STONE FOREVER!

[u/Gennosis_yt → u/G4laxy69]

If you don't rock and stone then you an't coming home

[u/PositiveSunfish → u/Gennosis_yt]

By the beard!

[u/CaptainDadJoke → u/PositiveSunfish]

For carl!

[u/Nugget_Boy69420 → u/CaptainDadJoke]

Hate to be the guy who corrects people but he's actually called Karl. With a K

[u/Top-Acanthaceae4128 → u/CaptainDadJoke]

Stone and rock! Oh wait…

[u/CrazyGamerMYT → u/Top-Acanthaceae4128]

ROCK AND ROLL AND STONE!

[u/TheAromancer → u/CaptainDadJoke]

WERE RICH

[u/yaBoi_smol → u/TheAromancer]

WE'RE RICH!

[u/Glacierme2blue → u/TheMostMonocle]

DID I HEAR A ROCK AND STONE

[u/BigRedSpoon2 → u/G4laxy69]

Probably maybe helps its a mining game, not a shooting game, primarily. So your thoughts maybe aren’t primed to toxicity because of how much more important cooperation is

But also so many online games work better with cooperation but so many pick shouting instead

[u/PornCartel → u/BigRedSpoon2]

Cooperative gaming is the best for multiplayer. You can also try population one (a VR team BR), they are the nicest people you will ever meet and your new best friend for the next 5 minutes

[u/Plump_Chicken → u/PornCartel]

In general vr has been very pleasant, well except for the large abundance of (extremely bigoted) children.

[u/Hust91 → u/BigRedSpoon2]

I contest that it's a shooting game with satisfying mining and engineering objectives instead of "capture the point" objectives. :P

[u/WearMental2618 → u/BigRedSpoon2]

Overwatch players disagree. They are dead fucking wrong and only hurt themselves. But they disagree

[u/CrazyGamerMYT → u/WearMental2618]

But DRG players will always just rock and stone and help their fellow dwarves.

[u/Alternative-Fail-233 → u/G4laxy69]

So… greenbeard altruism?

[u/TacticalSupportFurry → u/G4laxy69]

i will personally train anyone that needs or wants it, come on down to Rent-A-Greybeard!

[u/hdyer96 → u/G4laxy69]

Can vouch, still playing deep rock and everyone just wants to drink, rock and stone and dance.

[u/WanderingDwarfMiner → u/hdyer96]

Rock and Stone in the Heart!

[u/hdyer96 → u/WanderingDwarfMiner]

Rock and Stone, brother!

[u/TheNinjaSausage → u/G4laxy69]

oT

[u/_Pankybeast → u/G4laxy69]

Only oily oafs and goofy goobers here.

[u/Unspeakblycrass → u/G4laxy69]

Came here to preach about my favorite game and favorite community of all time. Rock and Stone you beautiful Dwarf!!

[u/WanderingDwarfMiner → u/Unspeakblycrass]

For Karl!

[u/Horn_Python → u/G4laxy69]

its co-opperative game with no competitive elements, and the game is constantly emphasising teamwork,

the tag line is "No Dwarf left behind"

its no wonder the communitys so chill

​

more games should have pro teamork "propoganda"

[u/lordsaladito → u/G4laxy69]

What is the endgoal of deep rock, like its a looter shooter?

[u/Unspeakblycrass → u/lordsaladito]

Not really. There are like 8 different mission types and in each mission the cave systems are randomly generated so it almost always feels like a new environment (unless you’re like me with nearly 1000 hours in who starts to recognize small patterns).

You work as a team of 4 to mine minerals, build refineries, hunt giant bugs and more. Each Dwarf is equipped with unique weapons, traversal and utility tools designed to work in conjunction with your fellow Dwarves.

To answer your question, DRG is about team work, survival, fun, dancing and beer. Also Darkness and dead bugs.

Rock and Stone!

[u/WanderingDwarfMiner → u/Unspeakblycrass]

Can I get a Rock and Stone?

[u/JackTripper53 → u/WanderingDwarfMiner]

ROCK. AND. STOOOOONE!

[u/lordsaladito → u/Unspeakblycrass]

Ok, you convinced me, time to buy a game to play with my friends for like 2 weeks (i hope more)

[u/master_pingu1 → u/lordsaladito]

thanks for signing on to the company, miner!

[u/ManiacLife666 → u/lordsaladito]

Game is stupid fun with friends, also I think there was a discount for their 5th anniversary but it ended few days ago

[u/Thebasterd → u/ManiacLife666]

It's still part of the steam spring sale for like 10 bucks I think

[u/ManiacLife666 → u/Thebasterd]

that's nice

[u/achilleasa → u/lordsaladito]

The endgoal is fashion.

[u/Mondo_Montage]

Dudes be like where is my gamer girl gf my brother in Christ you fucking made them all leave

[u/tullia → u/Mondo_Montage]

I’ve read Reddit posts from guys who want a girlfriend who watches them play, as in they don’t take turns and she doesn’t get a controller and she’s not playing another game at the same time — she just watches him play. Maybe that’s what some of these chuds mean.

[u/fejrbwebfek → u/tullia]

They want a younger sibling.

[u/JA155 → u/fejrbwebfek]

No a younger sibling would want to play 😂😂

[u/Cute_Cat5186 → u/tullia]

Sounds incredible boring.

[u/PrsnlSpace → u/tullia]

I did that for years out of fear it was the best I'd find in a partner. Got yelled at if I did something else or asked why I bothered coming if I didn't want to play (I'd love to play). Ignored once friends came online, but still given shit for looking at my phone to do something.
Sucks the self-esteem outta you.

[u/OddOllin → u/PrsnlSpace]

Holy glob, that guy sounds absolutely terrible. I'm so sorry you went through that. Hope you're doing better these days.

[u/Chopskie117 → u/tullia]

I've never understood that. I know girls who have told me they "dated" people in the past who would invite them over just to watch him play video games, they told me it was a joke. I don't understand why guys would want that

[u/gorosheeta → u/Chopskie117]

They want an audience, not a reciprocal interaction.

[u/eatflapjacks → u/Mondo_Montage]

Seriously, had a friend treat the one girl in his group like shit and making "women ☕️" jokes constantly, then had the audacity to complain about how no girl wants him. Like, yeah no shit.

[u/Mywifefoundmymain → u/Mondo_Montage]

I was play cod with a friend the other night and he asked if his gf could play since we were short a person. Of course the shit talking commenced after she said hello.

First match was free for all. Not only did she win, but she made it a mission to find each and every one of us, kill us, and screen cap her t bagging us.

The shot talk that came out of her mouth was…. Impressive.

[u/Zerutor]

*chat off, voice off*

[u/Healthy_Pain9582 → u/Zerutor]

honestly this advice goes for men too, trying to play any game and everyone blames everyone else

[u/kazez2 → u/Healthy_Pain9582]

Yep, never play with voice chat on. Too many idiots out there, rather keep my sanity intact

[u/EthoC → u/Zerutor]

Seriously tho, I have been online gaming for decades and I can't remember once having used voice chat with strangers. I just don't see why I should. All games I've played are perfectly playable without. Besides of a few good friends I made through games, no one heard my voice while gaming.

Maybe it's because I have always been on PC where text chat is (or used to be? I don't game online often anymore) the common way to chat.

[u/Radiant_Fondant_4097 → u/Zerutor]

I’m not even a girl, and absolutely any game with integrated voice chat is getting switched off straight away before playing.

Sweet sweet silence, voice chat is reserved for friends over discord or whatever.

[u/IHateNumbers234]

If you have a Switch, try out Splatoon 3! It doesn't have native voice chat and the community is super inclusive, plus the game is fun.

[u/JezebelRaven]

"Go back to the kitchen." Yup, that's where I keep my knives.

[u/Ambitious_Log_5559 → u/JezebelRaven]

That's where I keep my kitchen gun.

[u/Pokhanpat]

"to overcome toxic people online, one must become the toxic person online" - Sun Tzu

[u/Poorly_Made_Comix → u/Pokhanpat]

He was so ahead of his time

[u/ceeyaz]

I found the solution for this one, but its sad: never reveal you’re a girl

[u/Talisa87 → u/ceeyaz]

This is the way.

[u/Emotional_Let_7547 → u/ceeyaz]

Phasmophobia was like that too. If a girl makes themselves known then there is usually a creep in the match that either trash talks them, says creepy stuff or follows them around annoying them.

It makes me uncomfortable just being 3ed party witness to it. I can't imagine having to deal with it all the time.

[u/gophergun]

Sorry you had to deal with that. Honestly, that toxicity is a big part of why I avoid online games.

[u/greengengar → u/gophergun]

It's kinda sad really. Like banter is an important part of the MP experience, but with random strangers, boundaries stop existing in a bad way.

[u/Ebinebinebinebin → u/greengengar]

Yeah like I banter in video games but I always make sure to be funny about it, while almost everyone just uses twitch lingo to trash talk each other in the most infuriatingly uncreative and unfunny ways possible.

[u/illessen → u/gophergun]

I just tell them I’m mute and can’t speak.

[u/Ego_dragon → u/gophergun]

Everyone is talking about "oh how amazing would be *insertsingleplayergame* with a multiplayer!". NO IT WILL NOT. And multiplayer games tend to have that thing called "balance" which is strangely destroys all fun.

[u/_Bill_Huggins_ → u/Ego_dragon]

I agree for many games. When I find a great single player game to play and I see comments about how it needs multiplayer I feels this way usually.

I believe this is part of what killed Elite Dangerous the online space flight simulator. They needed to keep weapon damage in check so they made turreted guns attached to your ship do way less damage even though that makes little sense to do so. Turreted guns could track in 360 degrees so it's an obvious advantage. In real life a turreted ship gun doesn't do less damage because it's on a turret... But pvp balancing made it necessary.

So you were left with something that when you did PvE it made no sense at all.

Sure you need some balance in single player but you don't need nearly as much.

[u/LiteratureNearby → u/gophergun]

For me it's the toxicity and the fact that for 5 days a week I'm working this 8 to 6 job which requires all my energy. I'm not interested in competing with sweaty smoothbrain bigots after all those hours of shoveling shit.

I'd rather play depression simulator and continue my Disco Elysium playthrough lol

[u/shadowblaze25mc]

There are so many great single player games that I hardly have time for multis except when hanging out with friends!

[u/ori14]

Gaming is a female trait men should go build houses and fight in wars

[u/ZacIDK → u/ori14]

My dumbass thought you said build horses instead of houses

[u/folko1 → u/ZacIDK]

I'd be willing to learn horse construction.

[u/MistraloysiusMithrax → u/folko1]

It was a required class in Greece

[u/MrStrigoi → u/MistraloysiusMithrax]

The final test was Troy

[u/DirtyRoller]

Middle aged dude here, I just auto mute everybody by default. I don't have patience for stupidity and shit talk anymore.

[u/Glad-Driver-24 → u/DirtyRoller]

I mean I play Overwatch 2 and communication in voice chat that is actually useful to the game is like 1 in 100 games. Granted I’m in Plat, but still.

[u/Cybersorcerer1]

I almost got my sister into multiplayer games and the same thing happened to her, it's so sad

[u/Gloomy_Living_7532]

And then they wonder why they're single.

[u/West_Cranberry_4091]

I don’t blame ye

[u/Professional-Bug]

Heavily depends on the game honestly.

[u/Zagden → u/Professional-Bug]

FF14 is like 1/3 female players and is pretty good with that

I have both male and female characters and I've been harassed more on the males than the females lol

[u/LyyC → u/Zagden]

FFXIV is definitely less toxic but I've been harassed differently there. Had my fair share of people either stalking or trying to groom me, when I was a bit younger and they heard through VC that I am female and single.

The issue with FFXIV is that blocking someone, doesn't stop them from stalking you in-game. If you happened to be on their friendlist at some point, you will always be on their FL, until they delete it themselves. Doesn't matter if you unfriend or block them. They see in which area you are because of it and follow you. You could even end up in a raid with them.

That's the single thing I hated most about the game. I ended up changing names and servers, when I had the chance

[u/aethervox_ → u/LyyC]

Unfortunately i have very similar experiences, sure XIV is not toxic on a surface level meaning you will most likely not have people throwing slurs at you in dungeons, but many people like to brush aside the fact that within fcs and the rp community or the raiding community there is still a lot of drama prone people and also people who prey on (often underage) girls and like you've said stalking is a issue that SE has been ignoring for a long time and the GMs seem to do so as well. I've started the game at a fairly young age and quickly wound up in a fc that seemed nice at first but eventually it became clear they were trying to groom me, so i left but then they begun stalking and bullying me so i ended up deleting the character and quitting the game only to return years later on a brand new data center and character.

Since then it's been chill and i've been having a great time in xiv for the most part but even when raiding i refuse to speak in vc to avoid any unwanted attention. Thankfully most statics seem to be fine with that so long i perform my job well.

[u/Zagden → u/LyyC]

Jesus that sucks, sorry that happened

[u/achmadtheterror2 → u/Professional-Bug]

Squad is great in this respect. Not highly competitive most of the time and everyone is just the to have fun and it's evident in VC. Makes the VC a huge part of the fun in that game. Worst you'll get is from a squad lead playing very seriously and you don't follow orders lol

[u/cafelallave → u/Professional-Bug]

Back in the day I spent half my time playing Halo 3 online. I was the only girl in those rooms and just had fun with the chaos. My character was bright pink, my user name was imapittypincess.

[u/Bunniesrkewl]

OG mw2 had the most toxic sweaty people of all time. I was 10 when it came out so I got clowned all the time haha still talked back tho.

[u/Moggles1987]

I don't play much online but I can't imagine acting like this. I'm really sorry that you and countless others have to deal with this type of incel bullshit.

[u/tarheel343]

COD and R6 are the absolute worst games to play if you’re not a straight white male. It’s shocking how grown men act when they don’t have to face the people they’re verbally abusing.

CSGO isn’t great, but lately I’ve found that most of the guys talking in casual matches just treat girls like they’re one of the guys. Probably helps that the player base is a bit older than the others I mentioned. Valorant is known for having a lot of women too.

I don’t blame you for just stepping away though. It’s unfortunate.

[u/DreamblitzX]

Singleplayer games are better anyway

[u/DragonS1226]

I always found it strange why people hate on their team mates I never really understood it

[u/DreamsDerailed → u/DragonS1226]

It really does blow my mind when I play League and the two people in bottom lane start flaming each other in chat. Like that's your teammate bro, why would you want to turn this 5v5 into a 4v6 just stfu and play. And it happens like 7 out of 10 games.

[u/RickHok97]

I’d recommend using a deepfake of Joe Bidens voice if you need to use voice chat.

[u/thegetfitkid]

I get asked if I'm a 12 year old boy 80% of the time and I'll play along because I'll get harassed less.

[u/thedarkbestiary]

Persevere. Destroy the patriarchy from within. Drown incels in their own tears.

[u/greengengar]

That's how I get treated and I'm just queer. If anything, it just shows a lack of creativity and respect, banter is supposed to be fun.

Kinda sucks. I prefer SP or local MP.

[u/have_some_apricot]

When everyone says just play without vc, you know the game doesn't do anything to punish toxic players. Play other games, let that game rot with already rotten people.

[u/mr_jogurt]

this hurts my soul... if you ever want to play with other people hit me up. gaming is for everyone and i'd bee happy to help providing a non toxic lobby.